I was away this weekend, just witnessed this and wanted to share. Pay close attention to this little guy. Watch his composure when he watches his buddies take off. Sometimes you just gotta plant your feet firmly on the ground and stand in front of everyone, alone with the wind in your face, and know that's where you belong even when others fly by you chasing shiny objects. That's confidence. Seagull leader
When I think of leaders I admire I always think of people who helped me see things I couldn't at the time. Things like: "Give the glory to others. Smart people will know you were at the root of it." "Get at the heart of what people need, not what you have to offer." "Character is everything." "Why is this important?" We need not tell others what to do - just help them pull back the curtain to their own brilliance.
Today I'd like to share a quote from one of my favorite authors and an icon in the field of leadership consulting, Dr. Henry Cloud, "Plug into resources outside of yourself. Get coaching, join a leadership group or forum, avail yourself of continuing education, attend a leadership conference...these resources are needed to help a leader refuel or develop, stay motivated, get through a valley, or overcome obstacles. Sometimes they are needed to protect the leader from his own worst instinct."
One can only imagine how genuine the words felt to Oscar Wilde when he penned the expression, “Be Yourself, Everybody Else is Already Taken.” I wasn’t even sure myself until I stumbled upon the quote, laughed at its honest humor and researched the Irish writer’s background to understand what he meant. Wilde was an intelligent, once privileged and highly educated playwright who suffered greatly for opinions and choices that were outside of London society, eventually leading to his imprisonment, poverty and an early death. No one strives to live a life in exile. Adversity comes at us every day in [...]
Yesterday this exercise helped a client of mine totally relax and be able to strategize on three different issues where she was stuck. When you are overwhelmed, just slow down with whatever relaxes you - meditation, prayer, yoga, physical exercise. Notice the clearing that opens up. Allow the answer to present itself to you instead of ruminating on it. In that space if you are still overwhelmed, write everything down that concerns you. I call this a brain dump. Then address each issue thinking about which option will resonate most with what you value. Part of the science of this is to also note what you need [...]
How many times have you attended a meeting where everyone got their opinions out on the table, but nothing was decided? Or how many recurring meetings have you sat through where you wished you could have been anywhere else because even if you were to express an opinion, nothing would change? We’ve all been in dreadful meetings. I’ve worked with executives who planned for their direct reports to page them out of meetings 15 minutes into it. I’ve seen people schedule telephone conferences to purposefully conflict with meetings they do not want to attend. I’ve witnessed people repeatedly bringing work [...]
I had the pleasure of profiling 11 successful individuals who had to start their lives over, some more than once. Their stories vary from being laid off to dodging bombs in Bosnia to losing their mother to murder to divorce to the death of a husband. All of these champions overcame immense challenges to meet with professional and personal success. What I have done below is tried to capture for you some common themes in things they shared with me so that you may learn from others who have truly succeeded at their own personal turnaround. Stop being a victim. [...]
This one question stands apart when determining who will succeed and who will not. Learn how to position yourself with your unique value to build self-confidence and self-worth. In my work as a CEO of organizations over the last 17 years as well as in my coaching practice I have come to realize that there is one overarching feeling that successful people have that those who are not successful don’t. Those who are successful feel that they are worthy to be where they are. They carry themselves with confidence because they feel confident. People trust them with great responsibility because [...]
When you can actually walk your friends, colleagues and clients into that dark space of doubt and help them to realize what they are afraid to feel - you have gold. It starts with sitting in that space with your own doubt first. Connection. It is what generates all the fulfilling emotions such as love, happiness, excitement, joy, compassion, empathy. Like it or not it is also what generate business and a collaborative work environment. When you can connect with someone trust is present. And from trust openness blossoms and a bond develops. Sometimes you meet someone with whom you [...]
When you seek to advance your life - move up, attract more business and enjoy the freedom that comes from success - you start by first looking inward to discover your unique value. How do you close the gap between what you think you do well and what others see as your flaws? This takes humility. You can’t narrow that gap unless you are willing to see something new in the way you define yourself. You must change your inner-profile. I am sure you could easily make a list of five things you do well. If you seek to increase your executive [...]